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Happy new year! As with most new years, resolutions are probably on the mind. If self-care is at the top of your list, read on for 10 realistic ways to do self-care in the new year.
Well it’s another new year and you know what that means:
Pre January 1 = Rapid goal setting, excitement about what 2019 will bring. Intentions to be the best self ever. Bring on 2019!
January 1 through 20 = Doing pretty well. Went 5 straight days without sugar. Well I ate one brownie, OK, it was actually 2.5 brownies, but that’s totally fine since it was Janice’s birthday at the office.
January 21 = Aww man, I blew it. I’ll just start back up in February.
February 1 = What resolution?
If that is you, you are not alone! I am totally in the pre-new years swing! I’m completely motivated to prioritize self-care in an even bigger and better way in 2019, so I can really thrive in all areas of my life. Motherhood has filled my life with joy, but it has also made it very hard to do anything for myself.
This year I don’t want all my motivation to peter out and feel like, what’s-the-point by mid January. I think the problem is (well with me anyway) is these all-or-nothing resolutions. I always vow to do something everyday or every week, and then when I fail to do so just once, game over.
So this year allowing myself to just do my best, and not totally give up when I miss a day. And I’m resolving to put myself first in small ways (there are no big ways when you’re a mom), by doing a series of small self-care things….easily doable with a few spare moments and don’t have to be completed everyday. I’m all about setting realistic resolutions this year.
So without further ado, here are 10 small ways of self-care in the new year. Choose 1 or all, take care of yourself in the new year.
1. Drink a cup of coffee (or tea) without your phone. This may be at home or if you’re lucky out at your local coffeehouse. Either way try doing it without the distraction of your phone, and see how you feel. Either do some people watching or just watch your kid play.
2. Get dressed. If you have a work from home job or find yourself not leaving the house, get dressed anyway! For me that means changing from baggy blank pants I sleep in to tight black leggings for day. It’s not a big change, but between that and brushing me teeth, it just makes me feel ready for the day even if I’m not leaving the house.
3. Watch a TV show. This is my favorite and most common way to unwind at the end of the day. Watching an edge-of-my-seat show allows my brain to shut off for a while…that is until the baby monitor buzzes.
4. Adult coloring books. It’s super relaxing to take a colored pen to paper and not be writing out a giant to-do list. And when I say “adult” not only do I mean for grown ups, but “adult” with a wink face. Not only are there nice mandalas to color (I have the Coloring Book for Adults: Amazing Swirls, but you can choose from a variety of inappropriate coloring pages if you need to blow off steam while you color (e.g., Go F*ck Yourself, I’m Coloring: Swear Word Coloring Book )
5. Ask for help. As a new mom I feel like I need to carry most of the weight. Maybe it’s just so I can complain about being so tired. But when I do ask for help (and receive it), it’s like a giant weight lifted off my shoulders.
6. Purge something. This is one of my favorite things to do. I hate being surrounded by clutter, and I’m always looking for things to get rid of. Even just getting rid of 1 shirt or pair of pants that no longer suits me, makes me feel like I have space for accepting something new. Five years ago I read The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing and it has helped me stick with the process of saying goodbye to things I no longer need. It’s a 5 star for sure!
7. Allow yourself a treat (instead of saying what you’re not going to eat). New years resolutions typically sound like “give up sugar for 30 days” or “no alcohol” but how about if we flip that on its head and say, I’ll allow myself a treat when I want it. Eat that brownie, or have a glass of wine. I have always found if I try to completely get rid of something (that all or nothing mentally again) I fail.
8. Sing in your car. No explanation needed. This just feels so good.
9. Exercise. I know what you’re thinking…hey I thought you said this was going to be easy stuff. Well hear me out. I have 2 suggestions here. I don’t have to say how good exercise is for you. But here is how to make it easy. 1) Go with a friend. I went to way more of my neighborhood barre classes when I went with my posse. Or 2) Do something simple in your home. 10 sun salutations, 30-second plank, 20 squats; I know you can do that. And you don’t even need any equipment.
10. Journal. Writing thoughts and reflections down can also be relaxing like coloring. And it can be serve as a way to monitor your mental health over time. I once was a big journaler (when I was living in Europe and tons of things were going with lots of emotions). Now, although I still have lots of emotions, (postpartum, hello!) I’m not doing a whole lot of new and exciting things, so I like this journal The 52 Lists Project: A Year of Weekly Journaling Inspiration, with prompts to help me get out of that mama comfort zone.
These are things anyone can do, and this is coming from a woman with an infant. So choose 1, some or all and take some time for self-care this year.
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